Here I am one more week telling you about the techniques I work with to support and serve you. Today the turn is for Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP.
NLP was created and developed in the 70s, by linguist, John Grinder, and computer programming, Richard Bandler. Together, they created a model based in human experience and communication where they describe our activity, the different processes we carry out when we think or act. So, with that information, they developed a number of techniques that allow us to make deep and long-lasting changes possible. To get here, they studied and analysed how the most successful psychologists and psychiatrists at the time worked with their patients and created a model from what these professionals achieved intuitively. They discovered that, guided by their intuition, they had very similar and coherent verbal and non-verbal language. So, they developed a number of tools to make us become conscious of our own incoherences and correct them.
How? Deprogramming those learnings that are not useful anymore, to reprogram our brain so it helps our growth and evolution, through all types of language and visualizations. That way, using NLP as a tool, allows us to see how a person thinks and works in a conscious and unconscious level, so we can:
To change detrimental behaviors in ourselves or our clients, for better adapted ones.
To instal new and useful behaviors in our clients as well as in ourselves.
So, that makes it clear that it’s a perfect tool to become conscious of those patterns that prevent your growth and evolution and change them for others that work better. However, once you’ve become conscious, I personally prefer to liberate the hidden emotions behind those detrimental behaviors. Then, each person can discover for herself the appropriate behavior from then on.
How can you incorporate this model to your lifestyle in a simple way? Follow this 3 steps:
Language: how we use language is much more important than what you could believe. I think it was Lisa Hayes who said, “pay attention to how you talk to yourself, you ARE listening”. So to start, try to become conscious every time to talk to yourself in an inappropriate way and write it down. An example could be that that time you realized you didn’t pay an important bill and you said: “How on earth can I be so stupid!
Look for trapped emotions and liberate them: When you have time, relax and go through your list of inappropriate words. Then become conscious of your body. How each of those words make you feel now? Embrace that feeling and liberate it shaking like animals do to get rid of the excess of energy. After that, breath deeply and look again for the emotion. Repeat the process until the word doesn’t make you feel anything.
Changing your language: Every time you realize you’re using detrimental language, change it for a sentence that make you feel good about yourself, even if you’ve done something wrong. In our example it could be; “From now on I’m going to walk or meditate for 20 minutes every day. That way, I’ll be more relaxed and avoid as much as possible, to forget important things”. Here, to suggest something feasible and realist is paramount, as in order for this to be effective, you’ll need to go ahead and make those suggestions real.